Weekend Warrior What?!!!

Attention Dollfaces and Men’s, (Please excuse the mess of amazing clothes, shoes and other stuff) I’m officially in Spring Cleaning Mode! … That being said I guess Chris was sick of the old “closet organizer” I had and I was … Continue reading

If I had a Million Dollars..The Catch is….my @Blogher NaBloPoMo For 11/1/13

If I had a million dollars…of course there is a catch..isn’t there always…and I had to spend it all by nightfall…(not so easy right!)

1. Figure out what the IRS’S cut would be….$300,000 ….no use spending the $$$ if your going to end your a** in jail for being a tax fraud. So 30% is gone…70% left to go…

2. Take 10% or $100,000  of that cash and donate it to the following charities….(in equal 1% checks)..No particular order.. But God vet’s his 10% cause that’s what the good book says! Only 60% left…

Smaritans Purse…(check em out online)

Operation Home front ( I am a Former Military Spouse)

Autism Speaks

Salvation Army

Red Cross

Feed the children

United Way

Northern Lakes Food Shelf

Now I have a feeling that I am at 1/2 day to go….

Now I have focus selfishly on myself….So…

I am poor…seriously poor…I support a family of four on $744.00 a month! ( No joke)

I also am in great need of my 17th surgery that my insurance WILL NOT cover. I have spoken to the only surgeon I trust to do the work that is needed to correct my “mistakes” that have for the rest of my life left me disabled and in pain…the price tag $33,000-$45,000 depending on any complications and worst-case scenario happening… ($400,00-$45,000=$355,000)

So let’s see I have $355,000 left so let me see here…

$180,000 To have the ability to move my self and my children from the low-income housing aka  projects into a home that has the insurance paid…where we can finally have freedom to relax, pain and enjoy a slice of the “american dream!”

With the $175,000 remaining in the balance….

$25,000 savings account set up for my boys so when I’m gone…I can be sure they have enough for college and a chance at starting out debt free. ($$ won’t replace me but leaving my kids stuck with my debt won’t help make it any easier)  Balance to Spend $125,000

$25,000 Is set to hire an Attorney and to clear up my debt..what’s the point of being all squared away with IRS, Uncle Sam, The Big Man Upstairs, My Kids, have a home paid for only to have the dang creditors to lean on it and take it all away…Balance to Spend $100,000

$25,000 Used to be mixed between savings, investment, retirement accounts so I am getting myself back on track…It’s amazing when your well and working in your college educated profession..how you never plan for or assume that your life can change in an instant and you end up living below the poverty line..kids in tow…. Balance to Spend $75,000

$ 40,000 Used to get 2 fully paid for, off the lot, no work needed on, insurance paid up on quality ,
dependable vehicles…Again Poverty is a Bitch and so are cars that you have to dump $$ into constantly! Balance left to Spend $35,000

$5,000 To go to updating the clothing, shoes, etc my boys and I so desperately need…they are growing so fast and I have lost all the weight I physically can so with my bargain hunting skills…you’d be amazed at what I can do! Balance to Spend $30,000

$5,000 To be paid immediately on securing a spot for me for Professional Makeup Artist Training at Faces in Minneapolis, MN…since I am unable to ever work in my professional career again…due to my disability…this is something I have wanted to do…and hope to do sooner rather than later! Balance left to spend $25,000

$10,000 To help pay for the staff needed to help..
Move us into our fully paid for home and set it up
Professional to help me re-brand my “SimplyDavia” and make it “workable”
Cody’s Cost For Accurate Autism Diagnosis and Treatment
Dental work needed for myself to be able to eat without extra pain..and fix damage to my mouth caused by various “lifesaving measures!”
Balance left to spend $15,000

$12,000 to pay for my youngest son to attend the daycare on schedule for the next year (at least) where he is getting the extra help that he needs to help catch him up on his motor, social, developmental delays related to trauma he experienced in and out of the womb.
Balance left to spend $3,000

$1,500 to be spent on groceries and household items (cleaning, laundry etc) Kids have to eat you know and there are always laundry and dishes to be done!

With my last $1,500 I would give my kids and I a mini-vacation during Christmas to ensure the best Christmas they ever had with Paw-Paw in North Carolina…

Pretty fun to think about how much our lives could change for the better, how many other people could benefit from the charity money, what I could do….the sad thing is to realize that it “went so fast,” this is only a NaBloPoMo post prompt for BlogHer, The realization that my life has really taken such a hit due to my sudden onset of disabilities…. That with even the thought of a fake million dollars….I realize that my circumstances are so harsh….just like many people here in the U.S., we are hardly “scraping” far below the poverty line!

I feel blessed everyday to simply be alive when I wake up in the morning, I hug my boys and I am glad I can keep a warm place to live over our heads, food in our bellies and clean, warm clothes on their backs…I am driven everyday to find a way to be a part again of that “American Dream,” or better yet “American Success” story…A woman rising above her unimaginable circumstances to pull herself out of poverty, illness and beat the odds…

American Society seems to love when people fall under grace…and Love even more when they have someone to root for….I am motivated to become someone to look up to, for my boys to be proud of and to be a reason for anyone else to feel freely to look at and decide..”If SHE can do it so can I!”

Hope you enjoyed reading this…

XoXo
Davia

Hair the Long and Short of it…

So I have become seriously attached to my hair (while I have it!)…I lost it all in 2009 as a result of my nutrition issues, immune system malfunctions and hormones…

Yup it fell out in clumps, a fistfull at a time! 
The final tragic but hillarious situation was in March 2009 resulted in a broken mirror, hairbrush, hand, heart and a pair of garden shears being applied to a knot about the size of a GRAPEFRUIT….(NO LIE) of tangled hair that had melted itself together!

I felt devistated, heartbroken, ugly, like a complete freak of nature! My friends & the ladies @ the salon were laughing at me as I came through the door brush entangled in huge bird’s nest or baby “cousin it” growing out of my head..it was so hard to explain that I didn’t do anything…really I tried to wash my hair!  Hell to honest I had no clue other then I was in complete shock & panic…mixed with fear & nausea!

I tried my best to be confident…as the giggles and jokes were hurled at me (My Marine Corps Buddies attempt to lighten the situation with humor /make me feel better!)
*Sorry Dolls it really didn’t

I rocked a very butch mullet very proudly I called it the ” Pat Benatar / 70’s Rocket Chick” for weeks untill I and my ex learned how to speed set tracks of weave and glue using a parting comb and a hair dyer from a friend of mine in San Diego was a fellow Pagent Mom…It made me very proud (still to this day) to have someone who cared about me..and helped me to accept it, address it, face it, and to really be comfortable because it was happening TO ME..It wasn’t WHO I (WAS/ AM).. I made it bigger then it really was….plus it’s a easy thing to cover up in the overall picture of things!

The moral of the story..”Hair Today Gone Tommrow”.  For any women who looses her hair suddenly it can seem like the end of the world…(I can relate) and as I lay here playing with hair my now rapidly thinning, falling out faster then I am ready to come to terms with! I need to remind myself that I can get through this…I have done it before!
I now have the knowledge/skills/growing product list (aka tools)..so just take it as it comes with my confidence as a brace to keep my head up and to smile!

I can say what felt like STRAW and looked DIRTY up untill an hour ago

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See that WAS my hair…Yikes!

I am humbled because it’s a fight…but for any woman who has had problems with their hair and skin (more about the skin in another post)  from things like Gastric Bypass Surgery, DS Surgery, Hormone/ Thyroid Issues, Pre/Post Pregnancy etc.. You can make the mistake of just accepting the loss of hair and give in and give up or you can become better informed and take the best care of your hair that you have now!  Because at the bottom line of hair..it comes and goes and comes back again..I promise you!

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Here’s me rocking tha “faux soap hawk” Even if your hair is soaking you can still look cool doing it!! I mean you never know who’s gonna show up at the door!
(Pssssttt I knew the nurses were comming today so I had to wash my mop)

I used this..my son Cody was the first to fix the pump/use it!
Dermaheal Conditioning Shampoo

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*Amazingly Plain Bottle That Cleans and Leaves Your Hair Salon Clean and Soft!

Or like my son said he went from crusty boy to handsome young man!  My hair is very dull, stiff, dry and oily from the medication and poor diet. I had no reason to believe this would be diffrent than what’s allready in my shower!  I now have a reason to reaccess my sudsing routine! The scent is so light and refeshing and my scalp felt clean!

Lea Journo Parfait Intense Hydrating Mask for dry/damaged hair

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*If your hair feels dull whimpy & sick give it some of this parfait to thicken it up! Dessert may be bad for your waistline but not for your hair! 🙂

Has a ton of great things like;
Cashmere &Silk Proteins,French Plum Oil which to show you (vs telling you) After 15 minutes takes my hair from Straw to….

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Ohhhh…LaLaLaLa…. Soft, Shiny, Detangled, Full of Life, Able 2 Be Brushed WITHOUT PAIN!

This was a lovely thick, creamy, plum~scented parfait that my hair drank in…and it did my hair sooo good! It’s like holding spun silk in my hands and it revived my color! I did not need to add any leave~in or split end remmedy! No heat either!

I got these hair products from my Bloom.com September Ambassador box…and sometimes I feel like it’s an awnser to a prayer I didn’t know I would have yet! Sooo
I wanted to share with you what situations I am going through, what products I am using good, bad, so~so and sometimes W.T.H and O.M.G well pretty much everything in between..it’s my way to reach out..and give out information, tips, tricks etc..that I am learning on my personal journey and quest for knowlegde!  I don’t get paid to be a blogger, I don’t get a single dime!
The reasons I do the blogging and vlogging are very simple. I desire that NO WOMAN EVER HAS TO FEEL LIKE I DID!

I really have felt so alone, alienated, angry,fusterated..the range of emotions! I found a waste of time, money, brain cells, sleep..sometimes out of desperation comes inspiration!

If your like me or in any way looking to find smart beauty products, more information or a place to be more social & proactive about your beauty check out the link below and get started!
http://bloom.com/invite/90065

Please make sure to come back and see what’s up…I promise I will keep writing as long and whitty as there is someone out there!

Thank you with all of my heart for allowing me to share my very long but true story & experience with you!

All My Best,
XoXoXo
Davia